![]() Dislike: means that the sub don’t like the activity but would not object if ordered to. Those can be due to either a VERY strong dislike, fear or disdain for that activity in general but that it is not impossible to negotiate them under some special circumstances. Soft limit: means that the sub has great reticences towards that activity. Limit: means that the activity is a hard limit and that the sub will NEVER do that activity under any circumstances ever. The Almost Perfect Male Dom/Female Sub Checklist! ![]() So it?s nice to use them to discuss or negotiate certain activities but perhaps not-so-good to rely on them only. * Last: Note that has much has I recommend using lists, especially for beginners, they are only a tool and don?t replace good communication. I guess I could perhaps try to make a more general one some day but I?m not quite sure when I?ll find the time so I make no promise here When I started to write it, it was only for my persona use and I never thought of posting it anywhere until now. But I guess anyone can arrange that to their liking as wellĪlso, like the title says, this list is for male doms/female subs? So I?m very sorry if this doesn?t apply to everyone. I have also arrange the ?willingness scale? Instead of using numbers from 0 to 5 like many other lists do I put a one-word answer choice. It is still not quite as ?perfect? as it could have been? and this is one of the reason I think it could be a good idea to post it here: If anyone can spot something I may have missed just let me know and I could still edit the post and add it to the original list ^-^ Read them together for even more creativity and kinky ideas.After my reply to freakxxx in the Training Your Sub thread someone convinced me to post here that checklist I made up a few months ago? I never found a list that seemed complete enough before so with the help of four different checklists found on the web plus another comprehensive list of fetishes I came up with my own. For basic BDSM information, see my blog post “Ask” section.Ī great complement to the checklist are quizzes to match your kink with one of my characters and/or books. Please research kinky play, safe play and aftercare on your own before beginning any scene with your partner. Show me that you support my efforts in ensuring our community is safe and well-informed by buying me a drink. I think you’ll agree the checklists are highly impressive. Meaning, the forms are fillable with check boxes or text boxes, so you can download, fill and save them to your devices. You can print the forms and fill them out manually or do everything digitally. ![]() That said, I welcome you to buy me a drink. They’re free because this information needs to be readily available and utilized. In fact, you may not finish it in one setting.Īfter seeing the checklists, you’ll think, “Wow, B.J., these are so comprehensive! You put a lot of time and energy into creating these… why are you giving them away for free?” The goal is not to race but to communicate. The future is for the submissive’s hard limits, boundaries, wants and must haves.Įven though checklists are filled out by submissives, both of you should share experiences. The past is for things the submissive has already experienced and how much he enjoyed it. There may be things you and/or your partner haven’t heard of, so have fun exploring together.Įach list has two segments: the past and the future. The other is an alphabetized list of activities (B.J. It is shorter and focuses on particular areas. One is a grouping of kinks with itemized play activities listed (B.J. Learn more about the form and BDSM in general in a recent blog post. Not knowing what to say is no excuse to skip the communication.Ī great “icebreaker” is the BDSM Checklist. People ask me how to get started with BDSM, how to involve partners, and how to begin a conversation. You have a naughty smedia account, watched tons of porn, conducted research, and now you want to play but don’t know how to get started?
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